Friday, January 13, 2017

New Year 2017

2016's New Year Resolutions:
1. Schedule & go to all doctor appointments. (I have neglected these for way too long)
2. Exercise twice a week
3. Do 1 thing per month that makes me feel uncomfortable/pushes my boundaries for the sake of personal growth.

How I feel about them:
1. Almost accomplished this. Just missed one appointment.  Ironically, it's the optometry appointment.  But I feel like since I've gone to all of them and schedule yearly appointments, it's a habit that will be continued!
2. 35/50 Weeks Accomplished! So, I didn't accomplish my set out goal but I'm still proud that I exercised for 70% of the year's weeks. That's a BIG step up from never exercising while growing up.  As well as doing Insanity as part of my year's exercise routine!
3. I think that this goal was hard because I didn't have a certain goal for each month set up already.  However, I'm still pleased with my results because I feel like when I reflected on the month, there was always something that occurred in the month that qualified, which shows that I am already implementing this habit in my life without consciously knowing it.
January: Going home when I want to; February: Dancing (ish); March: Quitting Work; April: None; May: M; June: Starting Insanity; July: Going to Cooking class alone; August: Sports Challenge; September: No makeup on meeting a stranger; October: Lone-ish Travels; November: Choose Dietetics/Book Flight; December: Stand up for self against dad.

2016.
JANUARY.
Getting iced out by KH
KAP Christmas party at Cesar's place. SUPER HOST. piƱata, sparklers, alcohol galore. 
Cook w/ Dan & Sophie.
MOCA. 
JiST, Time Travel Mart, Little Beast. 
Long walk/talk w/ AS at Manhattan Beach.
Dinner at Woodspoon & Laker Game. Dan teaching me the players, positions, etc. (:
Neon Minigolfing, Riverside hangout.

FEBRUARY.
First outside dinner w/ Dan's family? Stinking Rose. 
Pseudoplan for Dan's bday w/ friends.
Omakase. Cute Japanese chef. 
Hiking, movie, kbbq date.
Valentines date planned by Dan. Huntington library, Lucky boys, SM Pico. Realization of simple quality time.
Started The Road (and never finished)
Benihana w/ fam. and food poisoning.
Start interviewing/Shadowing at other places.

MARCH.
Rough Sleeper at Think Tank.
Painting, Fail Cauliflower pizza. 
MOCA & Kazunori & skyline event.
Green Tea Curry.
DTF for Sandy's.
BLD, Petersen Automotive Museum
City of Gold
Quit work.

APRIL.
Sixflags VR Experience.
La Brea Tar pits. 
Trip to Vegas <3 .="" bellagio="" coke="" csi="" fass="" gardens="" hexx="" linq="" reef="" rose.rabbit.lie="" sampler="" shark="" span="" vom="" voodoo="" wynn="" zipline="">
Puzzle.
GoT Bingeing. 
Start Blue Apron.
Archery, Bake Macarons w/ Soph, CHICAGO THE PLAY.

MAY.
Pentatonix Concert!
Far East Plaza Hainan chicken.
Free Comic Book Day w/ HK
Cooking & Studying.
Descanso Gardens.
Chamango.
Take care of Ribby.
You Fake moment.KC
Yuri's Bday: best mojito ever.
Help Sophie Study.
Beginning of trivia nights.
Bowling.
H Leaves.

JUNE.
Little Mermaid @ Hollywood Bowl w/ Tan
I BECOME A WIZARD.
Dr. Tong
Start Insanity
Fail Outdoor movie w/ KAP Friends =>Kbbq
GCM, Broad, MOCA, Shootin guns & rifles, Maccheroni Republic w/ Hyunjean
Bianca's Wedding!
Smorgasburg
Huntington Beach, Kayak.

JULY. 
Endless mimosa brunch & beach w/ Jukes. The appearance of the RIDICULOUS tan. 
Fireworks at barnes park & first time playing with fireworks!
Became a pokemon trainer. 
Faith & Flower, Lotus Festival.
Ridiculous food poisoning.
Fail borns concert + fat sals.
Lots of pokemon.
Eternal Sunshine of the spotless mind. The Lobster. 
Comic Con (ish) in San Diego! 
Ramen Cooking Class.

AUGUST.
OUTSIDELANDS. Fall in love w/ Lapsley, Wet. & even more in love w/ Oh Wonder & Jack Garratt.
Drive from SF to Fullerton for Kickback then back to Alhambra.
Cesar's Bday at wurstkuche & angel city.
Cafe Sierra. Lady gaga grandma.
Stranger Things.
Sixflags. Realized I'm too old for that. so nauseous. Hae jang chon <3 span="">
Shoot some hoops.
Long talk w/ parents. Career confusion.
T Leaves

SEPTEMBER.
Fiesta hermosa, Tennis, Torrance brewery hopping.
ASSSSCAT @ UCB.
Orlando for Dancing competition. Insane 3 parks in 1 day. Morimoto. Ridiculous epcot/Rent the runway shenanigans.
Start learning HTML.
Pirate Show & DTF for Tommy's Bday.
Uncle tetsu.
LA Korean Festival + magals
Angel City Oktoberfest.
The beginning of Mondays w/ Sally & Sandy.
Talk w/ S, Personalize too much, Sympathize. 
First Pap Smear.

OCTOBER.
Hiking, acai bowls, Aldi w/ SC
Master of None!
First Anniversary <3 span="">
High Tea, Sensory Deprivation Tank, Bucca, Make Pretzels, Bitterroot Pottery, Grove, LACMA, Animal.
Disneyland!!
Rise of the Jackolantern.
Benihana.
Chicago!
Navy Pier, Architecture tour, Willis Tower, Museum of Sci & In, Promontory Point, Lou's, Eataly, French Market, Millennium Park, Magnificent Mile, 606, Lincoln Zoo, Slam Poetry, Alder Planetarium, Au Cheval, Museum of surgical science, Field Museum, Hoosier, Jibaritos, Mindy's. 
Halloweentown, Carve pumpkins, fail pumpkin pie. 

NOVEMBER.
Lyneth's Niece's Party.
Chantry Flats Hike.
Dietitian Shadowing.
Norcal w/ fam.
Joshua Tree w/ KAP
Cornman.
MPAIK GETS ENGAGED. LITERAL TEARS
Jukesgiving.
New gilmore girls!
Booked a trip to PDX w/ S
Disneyland, Disneyland w/ Hyunjean.


DECEMBER.
Abalone Cove, Shrimp Packin. 
Hanjip "Eating competition"
Dan's Company Party @ Angel Stadium.
Didney again w/ S. 
Spontaneous movie w/ mom.
Signup for Global Entry.
Jukemas Party.
Spontaneous Amelie Musical.
I was ridiculously critical of Dan's gift shopping practices. :[
Paik's Bachelorette party <3 airbnb="" experience.="" first="" games.="" glaze="" jeni="" quarters="" s="" span="">
Candy Cane Lane w/ Parents, Rhino & Dan
Vegas for Christmas. Ethel M Christmas lights, Gym, Japanese Buffet, Circus Circus, Ethel M, Atomic Museum, Outlets. 
Too honest dinner w/ JP & SC.
Nice Dinner w/ C & R
Car issues. "Free Enterprise rental".
Santa Barbara for NYE <3 3="" airbnb="" center="" park.="" sea="" shoreline="" span="" st="" state="" stearns="" wharf="">

OTHER:
Lots of movies. LOTS of eating.
a LOT of planning.
Lots of fun, not enough progression for work. 
Change in mindsets, career goals, friendships.
So much ridiculous fighting w/ Dad.
Stronger desire to move out. 
Interesting new info about sister.
Dan off the Venetian and on Assurant. Change in schedule.
Contemplate friendships and what's important to me about them.
Side hustles are a lot more prevalent than I realize.
A lot of experiences, a lot of memories. but now I'm poor af.


2017's New Year Resolutions:
1. Exercise at least twice a week. (Do the Couch to 5K program for the Mid-Jan-March)
2. Drink 2 (reusable) bottles worth of water everyday (~48oz)
3. Take vitamins everyday
4. Apply, Get a new job, Save at least 20% of what I'm making.

Reach Resolutions:
1. Posture exercises every morning & night for 3 months
2. Cooking 4x month
3. 1 Uncomfortable thing at least 6x (Singing at an open mic has to be one)
4. With the new job, get an IRA.


Reflection Questions:
1. What was the single best thing that happened this past year?
Birthday with loved ones. Little Mermaid, Shootin' Guns, the most adorable acceptance letter to Hogwarts and  becoming a wizard!

2. What was the single most challenging thing that happened?
Trying to communicate in a calm, effective, direct manner w/ my dad.  But also deciding to follow dietetics instead of optometry.

3. What was an unexpected joy this past year?
Dan's sweet reaction to my crazy hormonal emotional incident during our anniversary.

4. What was an unexpected obstacle?
Maintaining friendships.

5. Pick three words to describe 2016.
Fun. Spendy. Evolving

6. Pick three words your S.O would use to describe your 2016 (don’t ask them; guess based on how you think your spouse sees you).
Food. Fun. Lup.

7. Pick three words your S.O would use to describe their 2016 (again, without asking).
Food. (Some sort of obscure adjective for fun). (Some sort of other obscure adjective).

8. What were the best books you read this year?
Listened to Kafka on the shore (still in progress), Listened to Talking as Fast as I Can (still in progress)

9. With whom were your most valuable relationships?
Dan, Mom, Christine, Hyunjean, Tanya, Paik

10. What was your biggest personal change from January to December of this past year?
Career goals changed

11. In what way(s) did you grow emotionally?
Identifying more things/issues about myself and from where they stem from.  Reminding myself that I'm adequate and happy. 

12. In what way(s) did you grow/change physically?
Exercised more, skin doesn't seem to be getting worse, teeth sensitivity, 

13. In what way(s) did you grow in your relationships with others?
Being more honest and direct with some people.  Lessening of playing devil's advocate and more just being plain supportive.   

14. What was the most enjoyable part of your work (both professionally and at home)?
Old job: Little moments like the old lady giving us candy, having the knowledge of insurances/glasses adjustments for friends.  Currently: Interest and prospect of the career.

15. What was the most challenging part of your work (both professionally and at home)?
My old job: finding it enjoyable.  Currently: not being overwhelmed by all the things I need to do immediately/all deadlines are like now/not knowing how to tackle all of it.

16. What was your single biggest time waster in your life this past year?
Overresearching/Overthinking/Overplanning

17. What was the best way you used your time this past year?
Lots more traveling and experiencing!

18. What was biggest thing you learned this past year?
A year goes by FAST.  I need to stop trying to over plan/predict the future/be overly precautious and learn to just do things and figure out how to make it work.

19. Create a phrase or statement that describes 2016 for you.
As my sister says... #CUP. chill ur poor.

Monday, January 11, 2016

New Year 2016

2015's New Year Resolutions:
1. Write down things I have accomplished throughout the year and keep them in 4 jars: career/work, health, fun/hobbies, other. Fill them all up at least once but hopefully twice.
No matter how big or small the task, the objective is to celebrate the doing.

How I feel about them:
1. I really liked the idea of this.  Not going to lie, it lasted 3 months.  I think it's a more realistic goal when I'm actually more at home/in my room. I think I'm going to revisit this idea when I have my own place.  I think reading through the slips has been a great experience.
I think that I did do a lot this year and I track it on my calendar, it's an easier platform, but it feels more concrete when written.

2015.
This was the year I was offended by Aunt/Uncle. Felt defensive about optometry
This was the year I updated my resume & applied to jobs/optometry offices.
This was the year I received my diploma.
This was the year my friends interviewed for schools.
This was the year my tire got stolen in mpk.
This was the year I had my interviews for jobs and completely bombed the first one but was hired on the spot for the other.
This was the year of reading/listening to books: wild, flirting w/ felicity, my sister's grave, what i wish i knew when i was 20, ...
This was the year I started working in MB.
This was the year of playing board games a lot w/ jukecity.
This was the year of Grand central market w/ kcruz.
This was the year I planned vday at Hangar 18 for ew.
This was the year I spent FOR.EVER. with the people from the auto shop to try to fix my tpms light. and the day that the manager drove me around for hours.
This was the year juke hiked the hollywood sign.
This was the year I awkwardly sat in the theater alone waiting for late friends and tried burmese food for the first time.
This was the year Dson & I ran into Jane and randomly joined her and caught up on life.
This was the year of the brunch, lacma KAP adventure then going to perch for sandy's bday.
This was the year of seeing austin again from such a long time & feeling super awkward.
This was the year ew invited me to a wedding.
This was the year I spent a fortune ish on Dr. Clark's birthday.
This was the year of a LOT of fighting w/ ew.
This was the year of getting together w/ the riverside girls "everymonth"
This was the year some of juke came to visit to hike & eat.
This was the year I had work training in irvine.
This was the year I visited Kris' apartment and talked w/ jchao.
This was the year I slept over at mzaw's and stayed up till 7am talking.
This was the year ew & I broke up & saw him later that day in a group setting.
This was the year I dogsat ribby.
This was the year of paint night w/ tanya and realizing it's hard for us to let loose compared to others.
This was the year I had jazzcat w/ brian & sally.
This was the year I found out about the secret group.
This was the year I went into a spiral of emotions/self pity/etc.
This was the year I had baekjeong w/ ash & ranted.
This was the year of getting drunk for the first time w/ kris.
This was the year I went to archery lessons w/ bryan&brian, lucky boy's, kevin's place, then dtf for yuri's bday, and norms w/ tim.
This was the year I hung out w/ tim quite a bit. madmax, d&b, 101.
This was the year I went to Dland w/ kcruz for our birthdays.
This was the year of the surprise annie at ice que.
This was the year ew told me that he had feelings for sally a month after breaking up w/ me.
This was the year of meeting up w/ anton & kcruz for drinks.
This was the year of banana bay & round 1 karaoke.
This was the year I set up my birthday week. lawry's w/ parents, sugarfish & park w/ kevin, bouzy w/ kris, son of a gun, el chato, salt&straw w/ tan&hyun, dtf w/ juke.
This was the year of dtf on my birthday, $200, Sandy's. what a mess.
This was the year I had brunch/lunch w/ dan at cheesecake.
This was the year I took dad to Andrea Bocelli
This was the year of "best friend" day w/ dan & tim at curry house.
This was the year of visiting david in irvine.
This was the year of Kcruz treating me to a dodgers game.
This was the year I drove to pomona for dan's graduation then to riverside & then back home.
This was the year my grandmother got really ill.
This was the year of the emotional talk w/ tanya.
This was the year of mzaw's surprise bonfire for her bday.
This was the year of having lunch w/ mpaik at ichimi.
This was the year of googly eyes w/ dan, elote w/arden.
This was the year I went on a date w/ dan to EMC & inside out. (w/o really realizing)
This was the year I treated parents to mbpost.
This was the year of little 626 trip w/ tan.
This was the year of going to sixflags, bucca & samo w/ dan.
This was the year of the family bbq then dad disappearing for the 4th.
This was the year I went to pepperdine w/ arden to visit. long talks.
This was the year Sandy & I had long talks at jazzcat.
This was the year of impromptu hangout. drive to irvine, tacos, himym, spectacular now, sushi gen, barcade, d&b.
This was the year of the party @ eric's.
This was the year of going to the dodger game ayce section w/ tim & his friends.
This was the year of the haiku's. disconnected.
This was the year of little fork, griffith w/ d and then the escape room & emc.
This was the year of LATE NIGHTS before work.
This was the year we hiked to the griffith teahouse, & dinela, dan's car broke down.
This was the year of alondros & rollerskating.
This was the year of multiple study dates w/ the "fantastic four".
This was the year of playing board games w/ dan and sophie for the first time.
This was the year of the nike sale, portos, and la zoo roaring nights.
This was the year of the getty w/ dan, mzaw, & tchin.
This was the year tan & I did the stairs w/ the backpack & hammock time w/ goodtalks.
This was the year the metro bus hit me.
This was the year I went to brian's w/ sandy & made macarons & studied.
This was the year of the oc fair, newport beach.
This was the year of the outdoor movie and longtalks.
This was the year of perch and lacma for mzaw's friend.
This was the year of the double dinner w/ tan.
This was the year of dinner at venice room, disappearance w/ d.
This was the year david came to eat gaja.
This was the year of the comedy club w/ dan, then the 3 person bday bash at angel city/barcade. s/o.
This was the year of la grande orange, movie, downtown disney.
This was the year kalin visits, longbeach.
This was the year of the planned day. anaheim packing district, la live 4dx, wurstkuche.
This was the year having dinner w/ anton. longtalks.
This was the year of lunch w/ david. newperson.
This was the year of dinner w/ shio. 4 year update.
This was the year I applied for a credit card.
This was the year of ktown trip w/ tan & kris.
This was the year of sunday funday in mb w/ dan then dinner w/ pearl & steph.
This was the year of dinner w/ james & drinks in westla. Jason's place. nobueno.
This was the year of strange anxiety.
This was the year of griffith observatory show, and meeting a couple of his college friends.
This was the year of the full day study. kris panera. talk.
This was the year or dinner w/ uba & connie.
This was the year of mom's surgery.
This was the year of the broad w/ dan.
This was the year of lobster festival, fruit tart making and games.
This was the year I finally got a haircut.
This was the year of spinfish, lastbookstore.
This was the year of tommy's whitecoat ceremony.
This was the year of finally going to the dentist. g. and realizing to not put up with mediocre medical service.
This was the year I fell in love with naengmyeon and kalgooksoo.
This was the year of sharing spotify.
This was the year Dan and I became official.
This was the year of brunch at the races & east side food festival.
This was the year of seeing the beautiful new del amo.
This was the year of lunch at the park, and walking around dtla, seeing ando.
This was the year of halloween @ dango's.
This was the year of meeting clara.
This was the year of seeing the improv musical & ando again.
This was the year of ritters for ash & bananabay for brian.
This was the year dan met tan & kris. at oumi sasaya.
This was the year I met mandy & christine, then garrett, justin & others.
This was the year of hopscotch, guisados.
This was the year of friendsgiving at tim's.
This was the year of going to DanDiego w/dan.
This was the year my grandmother passed away.
This was the year of cognitive dissonance, explosions, and words.
This was the year of trying otium, the gadget expo, 4dx theater.
This was the year I first got my eyebrows threaded.
This was the year I learned to put on false lashes.
This was the year I went to dan's company party.
This was the year of the too long memorial.
This was the year of the work dinner.
This was the year of newport boat parade.
This was the year Starwars 7 was released and watched.
This was the year of juke christmas party at eric's. awesome gift from sally.
This was the year of candycane lane w/ dan.
This was the year of spending christmas in vegas w/ family.
This was the year of realizing my crave for intellectual/mentally stimulating talks and those needs satisfied.
This was the year of new years at angel city brewery.
This was the year of exercising more in a year than ever before.
This was the year I realized I'm much more of a feminist than I thought.
This was the year of embarassment, drinking, heart break, self reflection, so much car troubles, family struggles, a lot of fun adventures/ outings, a lot of reconnections, a lot of delicious food, a lot of appreciation for people in my life, new levels of hurt and new levels of happiness.


2016's New Year Resolutions:
1. Schedule & go to all doctor appointments. (I have neglected these for way too long)
2. Exercise twice a week
3. Do 1 thing per month that makes me feel uncomfortable/pushes my boundaries for the sake of personal growth.

2016, come at me. I'm ready for you.

Friday, January 2, 2015

New Year 2015

2014's New Year Resolutions:
1. Live a balanced life
2. Enjoy the small things more
3. Keep an exercise regime
4. Show more love
5. Work hard for optometry

How I feel about them:
1. Definitely not. I'm not sure if this goal is attainable for me any time soon.
2. Possibly. I did do the 100 happy days challenge in order to be thankful for everyday life.
3. No :[
4. Uncertain. a hard goal to measure.
5. no.

2014.
That was the year of the San Diego trip and seeing where Kelvin was from.
That was the year we went on a makeup anniversary date at calisci museum & picca.
That was the year I had microbio lab & evolution. and struggled greatly w/ evolution.
That was the year fam went to trump brunch buffet for mom & sis bdays. derish.
That was the year we fought about valentine dates.
That was the year that Heat was canceled :[
That was the year I got conjunctivitis and it spread to EW.
That was the year we accidentally went to the ER for it and paid too much for treatment.
That was the year I did the 100 happy days challenge.
That was the year we watched all the harry potters together.
That was the year I saw all the Before... series and thoroughly enjoyed it (:
That was the year Tan & I went to abigaile.
That was the year I went to SB & Solvang to camp & hike w/ riverside group.
That was the year I volunteered at the lions vision screenings.
That was the year I held PFV interviews and learned that it helps to be on the other side to see obvious flaws.
That was the year of the spring splash fiasco.
That was the year I saw Kina Grannis perform. and she was adorable.
That was the year I went camping with KAP in joshua tree.
That was the year we had officer retreat at yucaipa.
That was the year I finally went to a student production :the jazz ensemble concert (albeit, for a music paper)
That was the year of physio owning me and wondering what happened to me in terms of grades.
That was the year I was worried I wasn't going to graduate.
That was the year I graduated college and got my B.S
That was the year I went to tommy's grad party.
That was the year I went to disneyland w/ Christine and ended up buying an annual pass.
That was the year I moved out from Riverside.
That was the year I bought Kaplan.
That was the year I went to New York with sister and cousins for 4th of July.
That was the year we had DineLa at bourbonsteak.
That was the year I wasted my "summer".
That was the year I kept postponing and then canceled my OAT.
That was the year I went to Taiwan and Japan.
That was the year I saw Masami get married.
That was the year of taking care of Rhino for 4 months.
That was the year we didn't talk for a week for a stupid fight.
That was the year I found out about bagels at panera.
That was the year I saw Tan's new house.
That was the year Tan & I hiked del cerro.
That was the year I picked up ribby.
That was the year my mind fell apart.
That was the year I became confused and lost and hopeless.
That was the year I mustered up to talk about parents about things.
That was the year we went to disneyland 2 times.
That was the year tan and I visited Kris in irvine.
That was the year I went to a Clipper's game.
That was the year I got an Iphone 6.
That was the year I went to disneyland w/ kcruz spontaneously.
That was the year I received a fine gift from gparents.
That was the year of the insulting cruise fiasco w/ gparents.
That was the year Riv group went hiking to eaton canyon waterfall.
That was the year I caught up w/ tcho.
That was the year fam thanksgiving was at Kings Hawaiian (and it was delicious.)
That was the year ew and I black friday shopped at ontario. (but not really)
That was the year I went to anaheim packing district w/ fam.
That was the year I got in so many packages (mostly gifts!)
That was the year I finally caught up w/ dson.
That was the year I took mom to get another meniscus surgery.
That was the year Ew & I went to vegas for our anniversary (last minute decision!) and finally had bacchanals.
That was the year James & I caught up.
That was the year of "pushing limits" at allen's party.
That was the year I went to ew's church and we talked w/ jon for a long time. "red flags"
That was the year riv christmas dinner was at bj's and then went to tommy's.
That was the year uncle's fam went to orlando, gparents "didn't want to party". but we had to bring over food for them anyway.
That was the year we didn't do stockings in the morning cause of busy prepping.
That was the year I celebrated ew's mom's bday w/ them.
That was the year my mom was wishywashy about going to norcal. but we did go.
That was the year we celebrated my bday after christmas at Alexander's in norcal.
That was the year we went to Leo's for hot pot and partied for new years.
That was the year I experienced being slightly buzzed/not sober.
That was a year of disease, pain, confusion, hopelessness, traveling, and disneyland.
That was a year of some good and a lot of bad.

This is the year of the dreaded continuation of floating.

2015's New Year Resolutions
1. Write down things I have accomplished throughout the year and keep them in 4 jars: career/work, health, fun/hobbies, other. Fill them all up at least once but hopefully twice.
No matter how big or small the task, the objective is to celebrate the doing.

Monday, October 27, 2014

Lost and...

Indulgences: Buzzfeed, silly detective iphone games, washi tape/daiso purchases, 
Desire: To feel at peace with where I'm at in life, be more courageous, warm fuzzy feelings, 
Listening to: Verite, Best day of my life cover, 
Love: These posts I found a year ago: Essence, Company, Happiness,  the feeling of stretching and getting comfortable in bed, 

Still truckin' on the discovery of myself...
I'm starting to believe that I've confined myself in a box of "I know who I am, THIS is who I am." 
I look back on posts from 4-5 years ago and I still don't feel MUCH different or seem any different.
A couple weeks ago, I would have applauded myself for realizing this.  Believing that I kept true to who I was and would have been proud of the fact that I have barely changed.  But in fact, isn't it kind of sad?  If I havn't changed much, doesn't that also mean that I probably havn't grown much either?  The realization of this is really confusing.  Do I continue to "stay true to myself" and yet confine myself to imaginary boundaries?  Or do I venture and explore in hopes of growth but also risking loss in my identity?  Where is the comfortable medium?


Which brings me to another question:

How do I find balance in things?
How do I find balance between work vs play?
How do I find balance between physically capturing the moment vs living in the moment?
How do I find balance between being thoughtful vs thinking TOO much?
Which of course, is such an ironic question because my year's goal was to "live a balanced life"...

But back to discovery of self.


One thing in the past week or two that I've noticed is a reform in my mind when it comes to my opinion.  Or maybe just that I'm actively practicing it more again.  I think that before, when it came to opinions of living life, how a person behaves, etc; I was aware that of course there are many variations for people, but to me I thought that there was a certain opinion that was... maybe more correct/beneficial/rational.

It was very much a... "well I think you should do this because of this, this and this reason."
Where as now my mind naturally goes more towards a "you do you" kind of option.
I mean, if good friends ask for my opinion, I of course offer my most honest opinion for such and such reason because I care and would want to only be honest and helpful to the friend.
But overall, I feel that although I am quite a conservative person, I think that my mind is starting to become more liberal? 


I think that we as a society need to work harder in many aspects, and yet we also need to celebrate ourselves more too.  Because life is genuinely really hard for each individual person, what ever his/her trials and tribulations are.  And getting through a year, month or even a day of life is quite a triumph!
So be nice to yourself, because what ever stage of life you're in, it's difficult and you'll find your way. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.


(or I sure hope so...)

It'll all be okay eventually,
Heather

ps: "Do the math: How much of your time is spent consuming things other people made (TV, music, video games, websites) versus making your own? Only one of those adds to your value as a human being" -David Wong

Sunday, January 12, 2014

New Year 2014

Dang, it's been an entire year already... 

2013's New Year Resolutions:

1. Eat more healthy. Exercise more often. [Live a healthy lifestyle]
2. Try harder w/ family and friends. [Work on building these relationships]
3. Spend less money. Keep track/budget
4. Be more thankful. Have less complaints.
5. Actively think about/re-evaluate Him. 

6. Be nice to bumbum. less stubborn, more understanding, etc.

How I feel about them:

1. not so much. those munchie meals, and lazy days :[ exercising hasn't been that successful either... at least I did go to the gym a couple of times?
2. not too sure :/ not much different effort than the usual
3. :[ sadly no either. spent a lot on food and others. at least i didn't splurge much on myself?
4. sometimes. less complaints but need to be even more thankful
5. slightly but not as much as I'd hope
6. maybe?

2013.

That was the year I started out by watching Nightmare before Christmas ( & EW fell asleep).
That was the year with the nice mochi memory w/ daddy.
That was the year I got my Iphone 5 from Sam's Club.
That was the year I visited Alcatraz with the family. hauntingly beautiful.
That was the year EW & I saw Cirque du Soleil Iris! incredible.
That was the year we made gingerbread houses. the vastly different techniques.
That was the year I made chocolate covered strawberries for EW for valentine's.
That was the year we had a fatty/fast food-y meal for vday cause of tests.
That was the year of the Heat fight.
That was the year where I freaked out cause I thought I lost my keys.
That was the year of those delicious biscuits at MBP w/ Tanya.
That was the year I went to vegas & ate the wicked spoon & got to see the new hotels.
That was the year with the date hiking, lemonade, amara & mi piace as a makeup valentine date.
That was the year we went to art walk & the salted pig.
That was the year I went to Spring Splash w/ David & met all his friends.
That was the year I got owned by immunology.
That was the year of the food truck festival at riverside.
That was the year I went to Tecate.
That was the year I was elected Vice President of PFV.
That was the year where I had conversation partners.
That was the year I say Key & Peele at the last laugh.
That was the year I got screwed over for housing & my dream apartment was stolen from me.
That was the year I turned 21 @ spent it at a PFV banquet.
That was the year I let eric use my apartment for a friend's birthday party.
That was the year I found a new place to live.
That was the year I took summer school at UCI.
That was a year of fighting about a girl.
That was a year of fighting about morals/differences.
That was the year I stashed my couch at Alex's
That was the year I ate a lot with jauhar & austin & eric in Irvine. fukata yums.
That was the year Brian made crepes for my family.
That was the year I went to 626 night market w/ my family.
That was the year when my mom had her knee surgery.
That was the year we had a nice picnic.
That was the year he showed me high life's breakfast burrito.
That was the year I tried Fogo de Chao.
That was the year with arguments about vegas.
That was a year of lots of master chef.
That was the year I threw Eric a birthday week bonanza. 21 gifts. birthday dinners with different groups of loved ones. aquarium & ruth chris date.
That was the year I got Jury Duty & it was SUCH a waste of time.
That was the year Kris brought truck breakfast burritos & long talks at hesse.
That was the year of trying Eatalian w/ Hyunjean.
That was the year I "hiked" w/ tanya & kris. our "healthy" day. (& seeing kau)
That was the year Kris brought me cream puffs.
That was the year I went to Pearl's birthday party.
That was the year where I saw the picture & the huge fight.
That was the year of the crazy night at banana bay.
That was the year he broke up with me.
That was the year Kris comforted me & dragged me out when I didn't want to.
That was the year I attended Steven's salon.
That was the year I had king taco.
That was the year with lots of talks of whether to get back together.
That was the year with a lot of sulking, and turning into a pathetic person i've never been before.
That was the year I ran with Rhino at the park a lot.
That was the year where I found comfort in Rhino.
That was the year I celebrated tim's birthday with dinner & icecream.
That was the year of attending austin's birthday party & feeling horribly awkward.
That was the year I found out about the kiss.
That was the year of forgiving and getting back together.
That was the year I screwed up by not focusing on OAT & getting caught up in emotions.
That was the year of seeing young the giant at Block Party.
That was the year my parents drove to riverside for me!
That was the year Kalin spontaneously came with me to Rowland heights & had a long nice talk.
That was the year we had kbbq two days in a row.
That was the year Anatomy took over my entire life.
That was the year David treated me to dinner.
That was the year David & I had a very honest and open conversation.
That was the year I took Photography & spent hours and hours in studio.
That was the year Alex treated me to lunch at his fave mexican restaurant.
That was the year I got 3 parking tickets at once.
That was the year I learned how to use analog & Cesar graciously let me use his beautiful camera.
That was the year I volunteered with Eric at his work events.
That was the year I confessed what I ignored in my head.
That was the year I interviewed people & learned a lot about that perspective.
That was the year I sold my couch.
That was the year I chilled at Kevin's house for a bit & he gave me souviners. 
That was the year My family celebrated my birthday at the Gordon Ramsay at the london.
That was the year I helped Ashley with her birthday celebration.
That was the year I went to a bar, the rabbit hole.
That was the year I met Kevin's girl? 
That was the year I saw bianca again at lunch.
That was the year I made a hard effort to be nice & understanding to Jenny.
That was the year Jenny was a complete bitch.
That was the year I had thanksgiving with David's friends.
That was the year I got an A in anatomy(first quarter)!
That was the year where I regretted taking photography.
That was the year where I felt humiliated in public and realized how unartistic I am.
That was the year when my car got towed & I had to pay $303 to retrieve it.
That was the year EW took me to disneyland on our 2 year anniversary for my birthday present.
That was the year I took my grandma to the doctor's & realized how deteriorated she is. & her.. 'quirks'.
That was the year I spent a lot of money on riverside's christmas party.
That was the year I burned myself & it left a nasty mark.
That was the year of hearing lots of updates from tans. sad cookie.
That was the year of seeing christmas lights w/ family +doggy.
That was the year of 3 days of chiang get togethers.
That was the year of the big grandpa drama.
That was the year of all the petty dramas.
That was the year of Lion King at the Pantages.
That was the year of the terrenea ayce seafood buffet.
That was the year of seeing Ashley, Lindsey, DSon, Jwang, kelc, christy all for the first time in years.
That was the year of a lot of crazy emotions, dramas, sadness, hurt, humiliation, stress, 

2014's New Year Resolutions:

1. Live a balanced life
2. Enjoy the small things more
3. Keep an exercise regime
4. Show more love
5. Work hard for optometry